Analyze/Life is said to be a question of choice and whether we like it or not, we will always be obliged to choose and assume all the consequences so as not to cast responsibility for our actions on others. If Men indeed has the right to express his freedom as he wishes, there is however no freedom without responsibility because each of his choices involves him personally; reason why he must always act as a responsible Men.
And this obligation or moral necessity to respond, or even to vouch for one's actions or those of others, is a daily requirement in all areas and circumstances of a life where Men always has the freedom to act responsibly or not.
Through personal experiences or news items broadcast for some on television or by any other broadcast channel, we may have already had to be informed about the fact that certain individuals have made the choice to get rid of either a foetus or a new-born by throwing it away for the first or abandoning it for the second in a trash can or in certain isolated corners far from the gaze of others. These common acts in our complex societies are the consequence of poorly assumed parental responsibilities resulting in irresponsible acts which make one wonder if the perpetrators took the trouble to ask themselves if this was the best thing to do.
This question is important because, since for various reasons which justify premature and sometimes thoughtless choices to escape the gaze of others, some find themselves obliged to have an abortion or to abandon their new-born in a place where life possibilities for some are almost zero, we think that it is wise to resort to several expertise to recall or give a definition of responsible parenting or the meaning of the word parent in contexts where the prejudices created by public opinion and certain Family circles hostile to all forms of pregnancies outside of marriage have their share of responsibility in the fact that some children unfortunately lose their lives prematurely.
What is responsible parenting?
“Responsible parenting is a necessity that takes into account the psychological, moral, cultural and social well-being of the parent and the child. » A society or a family that rejects a person who conceived outside of marriage, itself refuses to take its share of responsibility. Many people perhaps do not know, or perhaps do not even want to be aware of the fact that even "when psychological support from the environment is lacking, society has provided means of support to prevent children do not die after birth. » Each parent has in fact the right or better yet the possibility of abandoning a child not in a trash can or a swamp, but by “engaging in monitoring processes which will allow them to act responsibly. »
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Abandonment here is like giving responsibility to a person or group of people capable of ensuring a better future for this child. The biological parent has the possibility of entrusting the care of his child to adoptive parents through means governed by legal standards. And above all, we must not believe that if we do not believe we are able to give a child what he needs, we must necessarily put an end to his existence. Failing to have the courage to assume this responsibility yourself for various reasons, it is better to give this responsibility to other people because by doing so we prove that we are a good parent because we do not only think to ourselves but to the future of the one that we designed and that we had the courage to wear for some for 9 months and for others more or less.
It is not a question of avoiding one's responsibilities but of assuming them as they should and taking measures for the future because taking care of a child requires prerequisites. We must give ourselves the means to assume the responsibility of being a parent not necessarily by offering a luxurious existence, but the just necessary which is not limited to the financial level but which also takes into account the fact of instilling moral values necessary in a world losing its bearings where children demonstrate a lack of moral education and also a lack of affection from certain parents.
No normal parent wants their child to become a bandit or end their life in a trash can. Those who choose to abandon their children in corners that coincide with certain death are fully aware of the fact that their action is not good. They are therefore all in full possession of their means even if the view of society or better still that of those around them can favour this type of choice. Consequently, it is up to parents, families and the society in which they live to provide the means or raise awareness and further encourage young parents in distress by promoting morally acceptable alternatives so that these young parents fully assume their responsibilities either through follow-up which will allow them to educate their child alone, or by giving this responsibility to others without remorse because "some people after reflection can reconsider their decision and make the choice to assume themselves their own responsibility and fully assume their status as parents.
If we must therefore insult those we call irresponsible mothers because they have chosen to get rid of their children or irresponsible fathers those who choose not to recognize their paternity, it would first be necessary for certain parents question the quality of education they give to their children. After having had an exemplary education, can we abandon a pregnant woman? Can we choose to get rid of a pregnancy when we had the same education? These questions do not concern those who make the assumed choice to abort but those who find themselves obliged to resort to such choices because of poor surroundings or poor basic education, or even a good basic education corrupted by a society perverted by counter-values.
A coerced abortion is not a responsible act, just like throwing away a foetus or abandoning a child in the trash for fear of the reaction of others. Families and society must further encourage young people to be responsible parents like those who made the responsible choice to give them life and do everything possible to enable them to have what is better for them.
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