What we consider good may turn out to be bad for others. In fact, we always know what to do to please ourselves and others, but we prefer not to do it sometimes because our inner guide who knows what is best for us wants to bring us to make the wise choice.
As responsible for his actions, Men is supposed to know what is best for Him and put it into practice. It doesn't matter what others think or what they want us to do. Their opinion are non-negligible suggestions which should not influence our choices but help us to discern what is best for us.
Some will say, for example, that a child must do what his father asks him to do and not the opposite, and that is entirely correct. But a well-formed moral conscience freed from all forms of unwanted and paralyzing submission will not accept just anything. The child who has become an adult must be able to take responsibility for their choices, just like those who do not share the same point of view as him.
The transmission of useful values to improve over time in order to shape the character of an individual or make them a model citizen does not only follow a single approach. The educator also needs those he educates to improve the quality of his teaching. It is on the basis of the information that a baby or child gives to their parent that the parent is called to act and not solely on the basis of what the parent expects of their baby or child. Those who have the duty to educate must also allow themselves to be educated to be more effective. Wanting what is best for your children also means listening to them in order to find a way to better educate them. If we must repress bad acts, we must certainly not educate by adopting authoritarian methods which creates an atmosphere of terror. Imposition or obligation under sanction can lead to stupid and suicidal submission. A good education must be humble, progressive, and have as its basis the moral standard and freedom of expression so that during his adult life, Men no longer acts simply under the influence of his whims or his fears, but based on the quality of education he received thanks to his educators and his personal efforts.
The life of Men in society
To do only what Others expect of us is to remain unhappy for a very long time and perhaps forever. But to apply what our inner guide expects of us is to accept to suffer just for a little time. I have to concretely translate my convictions into action because I know that is what my inner guide expects of me. The greatest joys are not found in the gifts that Others have planned to give us when we will do what they expect of us, but in what we choose to do at a specific time, in accordance with the will of our inner guidance. To go against this inner path is to create an internal dysfunction whose effects could perhaps not be directly foreseeable, but whose medium and long term effects would be disastrous.
Also read : The reward of an existence at odds with the moral norm.
Let's take the example of an individual who chooses to take illegally what does not belong to him by right because the society in which he lives has taught him that the best way to succeed is by taking advantage of all the advantages that our privileges offer us regardless of what others think and the means used to achieve this goal. There is a societal point of view which obeys a particular context which it is above all not necessary to follow, and another more intimate which summons us not to obey the voices of perdition but to stick to strict respect for basic rule of ethic.
Making your own choices and assuming them means taking care of your mental health. It is not a matter of religion but the fruit of the quality of the efforts we make to learn to understand this voice which is likened to an encyclopaedia of all the good values that we have learned during our existence and that we must apply ourselves on a daily basis so as not to remain a slave but to free ourselves from the influence of pernicious tendencies.
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